Living well (A work in progress)

A letter to my kids Why This Exists I've been working out how I want to live. These ideas come from books I've read, people I've learned from, and careful thinking. I'm writing this down so: * I can come back to it

This, means...

The sound, such noise. Or, someone making a living, moving the lawn, fixing the road. The trees, invasive. Or, part of our history, designed, our home. Outside, so dark. Or, the season is changing, remember, stay present. I don't experience this, but my thoughts about it, means, either

I Am unique, I Am everything

Just be authentic. But to what? Feelings or values? Never just one, always both. But, what if they conflict? Just be honest. About what? Data or opinions? Your awareness holds both. But, my mind is all over the place? Just be present. I can never not be present, that'

Don't be afraid

There was a time in my life, where I wrote daily. I had a lot to say and teach. People were paying attention, but even though they benefitted, I did it for me... This is the win-win I am striving for. At all levels, and all contexts. It requires

This, means...

The only time that exists is now. Thus your present state is all there is. However nothing is static. Things are always changing in this moment of now. How can we ensure that we don't get stuck in the present - never going anywhere? And how can we make

Manage by objectives

I am allergic to todo lists. I've used them a lot. They always work for a bit, and then somehow, no matter how well you review and organise them, they always grow stale, heavy and somehow become life-draining. I do plan quite a bit though. Where I

What is real?

First there was darkness, and then there was light. Or maybe, you just opened your eyes? Regardless, you suddenly find your awareness filled with things! You have a screen in your hand, you feel the chair, your clothes, the smell of the air - the feel of it against your skin.

Observation VS evaluation

In my previous article I introduced you to the idea that language influences the way you see the world. And how you see the world directly influences your emotions and actions. This is not a new idea! You may have come across the following quotes before: “Men are disturbed not

You are a verb!

You: “Hi I am [proper noun], I am a [noun]” We use nouns to label everything in our world. If we have a name for something we often feel like we understand that thing. You would do well to be a little more cautious. Language can be a double-edged

Glossary of terms

According to Carver & Scheier (1998) you can understand a lot about human behaviour if you start from a  basis of goals and feedback. This allows you to see human beings and our behaviour from a systems perspective, which gives context to a lot of terminology you find in psychology